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Long gone are the times when girls were growing up dreaming about marrying Prince Charming and not having to worry about anything for the rest of their lives. Men are no longer hunting for a perfect housewife and a mother to his ten kids. Okay, some are, but the general trend is all about building a happy, balanced relationship with your loved one. And yet, we are still influenced by dozens of misconceptions as to what a happy relationship should look and feel like. Books, romcoms, and TV shows are also not helping to build an adequate idea of what a marriage is all about. Now you can find more constructive ideas on social media as people are sharing their own non-fictional experience and the things that worked for them. So, here are 7 myths about marriage you should forget about if you want to be happy with your significant other.

Myth #1: Marriage will fix everything

Nope, dear ladies and gents, marriage is not the ultimate remedy for
your soul’s pain, depression, and feeling of loneliness. If you had
any of those before getting into a relationship and tying the knot,
rest assured they’ll come up again sooner rather than later. Your
happiness or unhappiness never, and I repeat never-ever depends on
the outside factors, be it husband, money, or a pretty home with a
white fence. Many people have all that and they are still miserable!
Find the root of what made you unhappy in the first place, use a
therapist if you need to, and turn into that happy person that will
become even more radiant in a relationship with a loved one.

Myth #2: He should be your best friend

Now this is just a delusion that some people spread as a first grade
truth. All relationships are different. You husband/wife may be that
sort of person you can tell anything at all, but it depends solely on
the way you two roll. Some couple are more romantic, others tend to
create a bit of drama, and there is no rule saying you have to run to
your hubby with every little problem you face. That’s what best
friends are for! They do exist for a reason, you know. Chatting with
your girlfriend about that lousy day at work over a cup of coffee is
just as important!

Myth #3: It should be easy like a fairy tale

Well, here’s the truth – once you tie the knot, the real
hardships begin! New challenges will present themselves and you’ll
have to deal with them one way or another. Relationships require
work, even the happiest ones. Thinking that marriage is an effortless
ordeal will only get you and your hubby into trouble. Make sure you
understand the responsibility and enjoy the ride!

Myth #4: You’ll never fight

Au contraire, my dear friends, fighting is an essential part of marriage or any relationship for that matter. Happy couples in healthy relationships do that to resolve issues, share opinions, and find out what’s really important to them. If you avoid getting into a fight, suppress your feelings, or naively think that your spouse has no complaints whatsoever, your relationship will end up a disaster. The blast will happen sooner or later! The most important thing is to find common ground and reach some consensus that will please both sides. Then your relationship will evolve.

Myth #5: You have to do everything together, share every experience

Now this one is dangerous because in the early stages of the
relationship (or marriage) there is a time when you simply want to be
together 24/7, sharing not only your free time, but also hobbies and
meetings with friends. Living like that might be fun for a while, but
then one of you will need a break and that’s completely normal.
Having time for yourself, spending evenings with your friends or a
favourite book – all those things are essential for your happiness.
Marriage doesn’t make you joined at the hip, on the contrary, each
of you remains an individual with his own needs, dreams, and
interests.

Myth #6: Compromising all the time will result in a happy marriage

While little compromises here and there made by
both sides strengthen the relationship, compromising all the time is
the worst thing you can do for a marriage. If you neglect your
personal boundaries and hide your pain and stress from your partner,
you will gradually become so unhappy that it will be impossible to
maintain the relationship. Openness and respect towards each other’s
boundaries is essential to building a happy marriage. You have to
speak out every time you feel uncomfortable, discuss possible
solutions with your spouse, and do the same for him when he’s
having some issues. Be patient with each other and always tell the
truth.

Myth #7: Stress will kill your marriage

There are different kinds of stress and not all of them are dangerous for marriage. Sometimes stress releases a creative potential that otherwise wouldn’t be available (like a decision to quit job and do what you love the most). A decision to change the city or country can also be stressful, as well as the process of deciding whether to have kids or not. Avoiding stressful situations will not save you from them, so it’s better to be prepared and use them to their fullest potential. That being said, long-term stressful conditions should be dealt with as they will influence both your physical and psychological health.