Sometimes,
the inevitable happens, and you find yourself in a bit of a love
triangle. Choosing between two phenomenal guys can feel really
difficult, but there are some exercises you can do to figure out
which one is really the guy for you, without hurting anyone’s
feelings.
1.
Consider the positive qualities of each guy. Is he open-minded or
does he have prejudices? Does he make you laugh? Is he interested in
things other than his own ego? These are important questions to ask.
2.
Think about how he affects you and makes you feel. You want a guy
that’s not too hard on you, but challenges you. One that brings out
the best in you and compliments you in a meaningful and not generic
way.
3.
Consider possible negative qualities. Has the guy ever lied to you or
been manipulative? Does he talk about his ex-girlfriend a little too
much?
4.
Don’t rush your decision – a relationship is nothing to make snap
judgements over. Ideally, one of the guys will help you make the
decision easier by doing something incredible or horrible, and big
decisions take time.
5.
Instead of asking your friends who they like more, ask who they think
is better for you, creating a better suggestion of who they would
date rather than who they think you should. And be open when they
give you advice instead of being overly stubborn.
6.
Bring up as many of your interests as possible with both of them. If
one of them seems to align with yours harmoniously, and the other
seems to go off on a tangent, this can help guide your decision.
7.
When you make your decisions, don’t flip flop. Flirting with the
other dude and hanging out alone with him are boundary breakers, and
send mixed signals to the boo you did choose.
8.
Even though you might be into both of them, be sure that you’re not
wearing rose-colored glasses and overlooking red flags that you
shouldn’t’ This can include controlling behavior, negative
attitudes, or moving too fast physically.
9.
How is he in his own life? Does he treat his family and parents with
respect, and give back to his community? Lifestyle hints and how he
deals with bad days or unexpected speed bumps will help show you if
he can make it through the ups and downs, or isn’t strong enough.
10.
Do you ever feel like you’re being unfaithful when you’re with
one of them? This might direct you to the guy you’re subconsciously
into if you’re on a date with one and feel like you’re supposed
to be with the other.
11.
Think of who you wish texted you more often. When you phone beeps, if
you instinctively find that you want one name to show up more than
the other, that may be the suitor that’s meant to be with you.
12. When all else fails, go with your gut. At the end of the day, it’s easy to overthink everything and make your final decision even more difficult. Make sure you’ve considered past mistakes that you learned from.
