The world of online dating has changed quite drastically over the
past 20 years. We went from it being incredibly embarrassing to admit
that you met someone online to it being the norm. In fact, these days
it’s hard to imagine how one would meet a potential partner without
using a dating website, dating app or at least some form of social
media. Coming up to people on the street or in a cafe is actually
considered to be super strange, and few people still go to bars to
actually find a potential date, instead, it’s a place where you
take a date you’ve previously found online. And let’s be real,
when it comes to dating apps Tinder is probably the most famous one
and the one most people use. So let’s talk about Tinder and how
does one navigate this dating app.
What Is Tinder And How To Use It
Right
Tinder is a very popular app that
allows people to view who’s nearby and like their profiles based on
pictures and captions. It can be used just to meet new friends but
most people use Tinder as a dating app. The special feature that’s
different on Tinder is that you’re only allowed to talk to people
who liked you back and therefore you matched. This prevents
unnecessary spamming from people you show zero interest in. In order
to use it right, you need to follow a few simple guidelines when it
comes to filling out your profile and just be a decent human when
sending messages.
How To Make A Good Tinder Bio
So how does one make a good Tinder bio?
You have 500 characters to introduce yourself, but most experts say
you shouldn’t even come close to 500. In fact – the shorter the
better. Think of it as a tweet, and make it something people will
want to share or reply to. You shouldn’t state super obvious things
in your bio, don’t state things that are obvious from your
pictures, don’t try to spell out what kind of person you’re
looking for either. Instead, use this space for a joke or a witty
remark that will showcase your sense of humor. An interesting
question is also a good idea to get people interested. The most
important advice we can give you is “keep it short and sweet”.
How To Start A Conversation On
Tinder
Now when it comes to starting
conversations on Tinder most people are useless. You never want to
just say “hey”, or “how are you”. That’s boring,
predictable and pretty lame. There’s very little chance the person
will reply, they’ll probably just dismiss it and think you’re not
really interested because you haven’t put in the effort to come up
with a better opening line. Instead, try to comment on something
that’s in the person’s pictures or bio, if it’s obvious you’re
into the same kind of things – reference a song or a movie, that
always works great for an opener. Another good way to start a convo
is to make a funny joke, but don’t just copy-paste the same one to
everyone, tailor them to each person.
What Should You Open On Tinder
With And What Not
When it comes to dos and don’ts of
private messaging there are also a few things you’ll want to keep
in mind. As we’ve stated before don’t just open with a “hey”
or any other variety of that. Instead, try to start a conversation
with an open-ended question or a question relating to something in
the person’s profile. If you see that they travel ask about what’s
their favorite destination they’ve been to or what’s on their
bucket list. If you see they’re into music – ask what concert was
most memorable. Don’t start a conversation on a negative note.
People think it’s cool to be sarcastic and we see how sometimes
it’s fun but it’s different in person and different online. You
don’t want your first interaction to start with sarcasm. Don’t
use cheesy pick-up lines, don’t use icky innuendos and definitely
don’t ask for more pics.
How To Get More Matches On Tinder
It’s questionable whether you want
more matches in general or more matches that matter. The best way to
get more matches is to tailor your photos for maximum efficiency.
People tend to swipe right more on genuine pictures of people looking
happy and smiling. We’re not saying you should post a headshot, but
a nice natural picture of you smiling is your best bet. Make sure to
also include some pictures of you doing things you love (be it
travelling, cooking, hiking or playing tennis). Include 1 or two
group pictures to show that you’re sociable, but the group photo
shouldn’t have more than 4 people in it, because you want it to be
easy to find you in the pic. Another thing that gets people to match
with you is including a question or a joke in the bio.
How To Find Someone Special On
Tinder
It’s pretty easy to find casual dates on Tinder but if you’re looking for someone specialyou should just be as unapologetically yourself as you can. Don’t mention things everyone likes in the bio, instead go for your super-specific obscure references that only the chosen ones would get. If you have a weird hobby that you’re very into – post a picture of yourself doing that instead of going for what’s more popular and mundane. Basically, showcase the interests that will thin the herd instead of appealing to the masses. Your special someone will appreciate that.
